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You Judge Her Womb—But Not the Wounds

 

What if the mother you're judging is actually a survivor of a system that failed her first?

By Pamela Jackson | The Silent Eviction™ Series | @SheHealsSilently

“Why would she have another baby after CPS took the last ones?”

Because nobody taught her how to grieve.
Because nobody stood up in court with her.
Because nobody told her she wasn’t a statistic—she was a soul still healing.

And because sometimes the womb still believes in redemption, even when the world doesn’t.

🧱 The Judgment Is Loud, but the System Is Louder

Recently, influencer Peach McIntyre made a post that sparked fierce debate. It read:

“GETTING YOUR KIDS TAKEN BY CHILD PROTECTIVE SERVICES… AND THEN BEING SHOCKED THAT CPS SHOWS UP TO TAKE THE NEWBORN BABY…”

While her frustration might reflect real trauma, it also echoes a dangerous narrative: that women who lose custody are irresponsible and unfit, and that having another child is somehow reckless or selfish.

Let me be clear—this isn’t about one post.
It’s about how often Black mothers are publicly flogged for decisions shaped by systems stacked against them.

⚖️ CPS Isn’t a Safety Net—It’s a Surveillance Weapon

According to the ACLU and Movement for Family Power:

  • Black children are nearly twice as likely to be investigated by CPS than white children.

  • In some cities like New York, over 50% of Black children experience a CPS investigation before age 18.

  • Families are often reported not because of abuse, but because of poverty—lack of food, housing, or childcare.

CPS doesn’t just come knocking when something goes wrong.
It comes when a mother is:

  • Late on rent.

  • Crying too loud.

  • Partnered with someone the system doesn’t like.

  • Struggling silently with postpartum depression and no therapist in sight.

🔁 Reunification Is Not as Simple as “Try Harder”

Here’s the piece most people miss:

  • Reunification plans are often intentionally complex, costly, and unclear.

  • Court-appointed lawyers are overwhelmed, underpaid, and often don’t fight.

  • Miss one class? Late to one supervised visit? Lose your housing?
    Your rights are on the chopping block.

And yet… people say, “Well she didn’t take reunification seriously.”

What if she was never given a real chance to reunify in the first place?

🩸 Birthing After Loss Isn’t Reckless—It’s Resistance

To birth again after losing children to the system isn’t an act of defiance.
It’s an act of hope.
It’s an act of healing.

The womb doesn’t forget the babies that were stolen.
Sometimes, it reaches for restoration through another child—not as a replacement, but as redemption.

🌱 So, What Should We Be Asking?

Instead of:

“Why did she have another baby?”

Ask:

  • What healing supports was she offered after her children were taken?

  • Who helped her navigate the legal maze of CPS?

  • Why is the system built to punish poverty instead of supporting mothers?

  • What would you do if someone took your children and labeled you unfit without real help or healing?

🔥 If You Really Want to Help Black Mothers:

  • Stop shaming. Start listening.

  • Advocate for free, accessible legal defense for mothers in CPS cases.

  • Push for family preservation policies over forced adoption.

  • Build mutual aid networks for postpartum care, housing, and trauma therapy.

  • Amplify voices that educate, not humiliate.

📣 Final Word

Her womb is not your courtroom.
Her scars are not your social media content.
And her redemption is not for your approval—it’s her birthright.

If you truly want to protect children, start by protecting the mothers they come from.

💬 Let’s Talk About It

What are your thoughts? Have you or someone you know experienced CPS involvement?
Share your story, your pain, or your healing.
Let’s stop judging and start building bridges.

—

With truth, fire, and healing,
 Pamela Jackson
 Spoken Word Prophet | The Phoenix Coach | Advocate for the Silenced
 📖 Creator of She Heals Silently: A Spoken Word Survival Story
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 📸 @iamthephoenixcoach | 🕊 @shehealssilently

“I speak for the silenced. I rise for the broken. I write for the women who’ve been burned and came back glowing.”
 — Pamela J.


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